That’s the thing about the spirit, your spirit your mind will never be able to fool it. This is why you feel internal conflict. This is why sleepless nights feel like a battlefield. Your mind telling your spirit to rest. The battle of two that should be one. Because heartbreak feels like death.

I am sure you have felt this split within your body before. Should you go left or right or just merge the emotions together?

I liken the mind to a cautious protector and the spirit to a welcoming healer. In our happiest state, the two are merged allowing the healer and spirit to take center stage and lead the way. 

What do you do in the midst of grief that feels like death but isn’t death itself? Nobody died but you feel as if you have completely. Like someone snatched a gold orb from within your being and left. A part of you that you shared with them is no longer yours. When we enter romantic relationships we transfer energy. This flow is back and forth and interlocks us with another being. It’s even more profound when you are in complete unwavering alignment. You give love without judgment and pure compassion. You allow yourself to connect with another the way God would desire – pure love. 

When an experience like this happens, a complete twist of reality you didn’t see coming. It creates a split within and leads the mind to protect the spirit that will feel uneasy and deeply lost. So suddenly like death. 

Your mind will find ways out of this state. Find rational ways to break you away. This is chaos. Your spirit won’t be fooled because it only lives in truth and when it loves someone this feeling doesn’t magically disappear. It will remain there for a lifetime. This is the grief and yes it does transform to create more space in time for something new, for someone.

You know we were put here on this earth to love. Nothing else will ever be greater than this…Nothing. 

So what do you do? Wait for the horizon when you will one day wake up and feel at ease. When your spirit and mind stop being opposing forces and your mind lets your entire being grieve and feel that pain; all of it. If this is you now just know this will lead to great transformation and awakening. It’s during this time you allow God’s grace, the cosmos to wrap you with love and thank you for loving as you should as it loves you. 

The love will return first for yourself. Heartbreak makes us hate ourselves because we don’t understand when something very real is not how we imagined. We move to what we can see and it’s the person in the mirror. We hate them for not being good enough. So when the love for self takes over again. The healing and rebirth have arrived for completion. 

Just know that something wonderful. Someone wonderful is excited to meet you so don’t let your heartbreak break them as that person did you. 

Hanifa Anne Sekandi

Founder & Editor-in-Chief. Mindfulness Advocate and Facilitator. Member of the Mindful Society Global Institute. I have an Honours Bachelor of Arts in Sociology (Social Behaviour, Media, and Culture); Psychology of Buddhism, Mental Health and Illness Minor - (Eastern Practices for Depression, Anxiety, and Addiction and Religion (Society, Religion, and Politics). I help brands achieve their growth potential through an intuitive business development approach. Follow Me on Instagram @thethingsiwishiknew On Facebook @thethingsiwishiknew

October 19, 2021

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